[Unnamed Person]: "I heard you're adopting!"
Me: "Yes, we're so excited!"
[Unnamed Person]: "I know so-and-so who adopted, and their kid is CRAZY."
Me: "Well, I know a lot of crazy kids [insert sarcastic laugh here]."
A version of the above conversation has happened more times than I can count.
What's worse is when [Unnamed Person] proceeds to tell me a horri fic adoption story nightmare.
Do I want to hear about adoptions that tore a family apart?
Is it a reality I'm aware of?
Do parents sometimes adopt kids who turn out to be "crazy?"
Uh, yeah. I guess.
But I'd also argue this:
A lot of kids -- biological or adopted -- are "crazy."
(Side note: Yesterday I spent the afternoon with ten elementary students, and my hair turned grayer by the minute. No joke. I would argue they were all a little "crazy!")
Here's my longer response [that's usually too long-winded to o er when the above mentioned conversations happen]:
I know a lot of really great kids.
I also know a heck of a lot of "crazy" kids.
Most of 'em aren't adopted.
I know there are risks involved with adoption.
I'm well aware of them.
So there's really no need to tell me a story about how some adoption went bad because a "kid turned
out to be 'crazy.'"
Being adopted doesn't make a kid crazy.