10/10/2013

I Understand.

I was talking with a friend of mine who wonders if she'll ever become a Mom.

She's discouraged.

She's bitter.

And she assured me she'll go crazy if she sees another pregnancy announcement on Facebook.

This friend has other friends who have multiple kids.

Those friends have kids by "accident."

And kids they couldn't care less about.

This friend has family members who ask her, "When are you going to have a baby?" at every holiday.

Every family get-together.

This friend can't wrap her head around why she can't get pregnant.

And why it seems like everyone else can.

I understand.

I've walked that walk.

And it's not fun.

It's painful.

But it's OK to be angry.

And bitter.

And frustrated.

And sad.

Because it's not fair.

While I don't believe adoption is meant for everyone, I will say that when we first laid eyes on our
baby girl, everything made sense.

Olivia was part of our family's plan all along -- it was clear to us the very moment we met her.

The hardest part for me was the gradual shift of how I pictured our family when we got married
five years ago.

We assumed we would have tall, skinny [probably nerdy] biological children who needed braces at
some point in their lives.

We assumed it would happen when we wanted it to.

We assumed it would be easy.

But, you know what they say about assuming, right?!

Little did we know that there was something bigger and better in the cards for us.
We trusted and prayed and kept the faith, and THIS moment, my friends -- the moment we met
our daughter -- was meant for us all along.

So, if you know someone struggling with this -- please tell them this:

You are not alone.