3/31/2014

Why Not?

I was staring at boxes of eye drops in the pharmacy when a woman pushing her baby in a cart said
[LOUDLY], "SO, WHY'D YOU DO IT?"

I must have given her a confused look.

Because in my head I thought, "# $ %* #! My 'disguise' isn't working!"

Clearly my incognito look of no make-up, frazzled hair and sweatpants on my day o ff wasn't working.

[Lets face it, there are days I want to go to the store unnoticed and get home. This was one of
'em.]

"WHY'D YOU ADOPT?" she asked again, almost yelling.

My dry eyes met hers in the middle of that aisle.

"Why not?" I asked her with a smile, as I grabbed a box of eye drops and walked away.

Those of you who have followed this blog for awhile know I sometimes grapple with how to handle
these types of situations.

Sometimes I'm a bit thrown off guard.

I love that people feel comfortable asking me questions about adoption.

And I love talking about it!

But sometimes, like the other day in the pharmacy, I just want to be the tired Momma running a quick errand.

And sometimes, like the other day in the pharmacy, I feel like I have no privacy.

Sure, it comes with the territory of being in the public eye.

But I didn't even know this lady's name.

And I can't imagine how Olivia would feel if she was older and could understand this lady's demand in knowing why we adopted her.

So I was proud of myself for responding how I did.

Which brings me to my point...[Yes. Believe it or not, I do have a point here...]

I think it's important for everyone to ask themselves the same question I posed for the woman in
the pharmacy:

Why not adopt?
-Finances?
-Don't know where to start?
-Don't know anyone who has adopted?
-Scared you'll get a "messed up" kid?
-Too much risk involved with someone else carrying your baby?

There are so many reasons people don't consider adoption.

So many.

And it's sad.

But let's face it -- the unknown is scary.

Yes, adoption itself is even scarier than someone recognizing you incognito at the pharmacy ;-)

[Seriously, do I look that disheveled on TV?]

When it boils down to it, though, I truly believe we ALL have an obligation to have an open heart
when it comes to adoption.

Do I believe adoption is right for everyone?

No.

But I do believe everyone should ask themselves what they can do to support and love adoptive
families, birth parents and especially our precious adopted children.

And perhaps most importantly, I believe every single child -- no matter how young or how old -- deserves a loving, forever family.

No questions about it.