4/22/2014

Infertility: I'm Not Ashamed

I'm not ashamed to admit we can't have biological children.

I'm not embarrassed.

Sad?

Used to be.

But in a way, I feel grateful.

Grateful because the painful road of infertility led my husband and me to the cutest girl on the planet.
Grateful because the moment we anxiously walked into a Texas hospital on August 4th and held our 2-day old daughter in our arms for the fi rst time, we knew she was meant to be ours all along.

I feel fortunate because infertility has shaped the person I am today -- what I say, how I act, and what I do.

I know I am a better person because of what my husband and I went through.

Last night I was honored to speak at the Cedar Valley Infertility Peer-Led Support Group's annual event.

There were some great resources available for couples -- many of them are in the midst of treading the most diff cult waters of their marriage.

At the event, I emphasized three things I wished others would have told me [but because we kept our struggles so private, no one knew what to say]:

1.) You are not alone.

2.) It is not your fault.
 

3.) You do not deserve "this."

While I'm an adoption advocate, I recognize it's not the right option for everyone.

So this week, during National Infertility Awareness Week, I'm especially thinking about those on this painful road.

And I encourage you to do the same...

Because according to RESOLVE.org, there are nearly 63,000 women in IOWA who have experienced difficulty getting pregnant.

And I can assure you -- there is SOMEONE in your family, your neighborhood, your office, your church, your school, your circle of friends -- struggling silently.

#BreakTheSilence #NIAW