Their Child Is Loved: A Birth Mother Shares Her Heart

When we announced our plans to adopt, we had no idea birth mommas were in our circle of friends, family and colleagues.

A friend named Lisa chose life [and an adoptive family] for her daughter 27-years ago, and she turned out to be one of our biggest supporters, cheering us on our own adoption journey every step of the way.
Here are three things this beautiful, brave birth momma has learned about adoption...

1. Adoption is difficult.

For the birth mom, it is more than likely one of the most difficult choices she will make.

Holding your precious child for the first time after being born, and seeing how beautiful she is makes it even more difficult.

You hope that you are doing the right thing.

I love my daughter, and I think of her everyday -- even 27 years later.

For the adoptive parents, the home inspections and forms they are required to fill out must be stressful and exhausting.

I'm sure that waiting for the call that you have been chosen to be parents to a precious child -- and then hoping the birth parents don't change their minds -- can cause a lot of stress and anxiety.

2. People are judgmental when it comes to adoption.

Birth mothers get put down and get many praises.

Friends, family, and perfect strangers, who -- when they find out about the choice you have made -- will give you their nasty opinion about your choice without even listening to what the birth parents have to say.

Thankfully, there are those who have a special place for adoption in their heart and will praise you and give you a much-needed hug.

3. The most important thing is that no matter how difficult adoption is, or how judgmental people can be, it is all done out of love for a beautiful, precious child who God created.

I see adoptive parents interacting with their children and one thing is quite clear:

Their child IS LOVED.

Thank God for adoption, the wonderful adoptive parents, and the birth parents!

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  1. I love this account. It makes me blink back tears. Yes, indeed, their child is loved! I'm so sorry your friend has been on the receiving end of negative judgement, but I admire her choice and her continued love for her daughter.

    1. And she went on to be a wonderful mother to three other children!