To the Woman Who Hates Being Pregnant

There are lots of pregnant women who embrace their 9-month journey into motherhood with grace.

[Like my sister, for example.]

But there are others who take to social media to complain and moan about the inconveniences of the miracle they get to experience.

And sometimes, I don't think they truly comprehend the weight of their words.

So, on the heels of National Infertility Awareness Week, I've written a letter to them:
Ohhh, Momma!

I know you're tired.

I know your ankles are swollen, and those stairs get you out of breath every time.

I can't imagine how difficult it must be to carry around an extra 20...30...40 pounds every hour of the day.

I bet your back is breaking.

But please...

Before you complain about how that growing belly of yours cramps your style, please remember what a gift it is.

Before you moan about those swollen ankles, or that extra-large bra size [that seems to grow by the week]...please remember there's a little miracle inside of you behind all of this.

The heartburn, the nausea and appointment-running days are only temporary. And that child you've felt jabbing underneath your ribs in the wee hours of the night and morning for months will be here before you know it.

Before you complain about diet changes, blood work, and the middle-of-the-night pee breaks that make sleep an unfamiliar past-time, please remember how lucky you are to have this life growing inside of you.

Before you take to Facebook or social media and talk about how much you hate being pregnant...please remember there are thousands of women who would give ANYTHING to be in your shoes -- even if one foot is a size bigger than the other.

Hear me out...

I'm not asking you to pretend to enjoy every second of your pregnancy.

I'm not asking you to feel guilty for being pregnant when 1 in 8 couples experience infertility.

I am asking you, however, to be considerate. To recognize that what you're experiencing...is a complete and total gift -- even if it is a bit uncomfortable at times.

I'm asking you to think twice before you blatantly moan and groan about how much being pregnant cramps your style.

I know it's hard.

But becoming a mom is hard, no matter how it happens.

I don't know anyone who says pregnancy and childbirth are a walk in the park.

And I know sometimes it really, really sucks.

But a bit of perspective can change everything.

Sure, it can be easy to complain about the extra weight gain, round ligament pain or new wardrobe of stretchy pants...But remember, before you complain about it, what you're experiencing is something many women desperately want.

Pregnancy is a gift.

Treasure it.

And waddle on proudly with that growing belly.

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  1. I am 37 weeks pregnant after 5 years TTC and a failed IVF cycle. Its not been easy at times, but I know how fortunate I am to be in this position and I don't know if I'll get to do it again. I want to make the most of it and appreciate it all! So many people have said to me recently "Ohhh not long now, you'll be glad it's all over" and I want to shout "no, no, no I am not ready yet, I love being pregnant!"

    1. Congratulations, Kate!

      What a great perspective you have with that miracle growing inside of you!

      BTW - You must be due right around the same time as my sister!

      Blessings to you during these final few weeks as you prepare for the whirlwind of motherhood.

      You're gonna be great!