Miki and her husband Tyler are some of our family's dearest friends.
[Read more about their journey through infertility and adoption here and here.]
So amazing, that I'm letting Miki kick off the guest posts this week for National Infertility Awareness Week with Seven Things I Want You to Know About Infertility:
1. As much as it feels like it, you are NOT alone.
2. God is not punishing you for something you think you did/didn’t do.
3. It is OK to be upset/angry about your situation because it totally sucks.
4. Everyone has their own comfort level with infertility treatments – just because you may choose not to pursue certain (or any) treatments does not make you any less deserving to be a parent.
5. Although infertility is not something to be ashamed of, it often feels like a scarlet letter – try not to let it define you because you are so much more than someone who is struggling to conceive a child.
6. You will constantly question every tiny detail of your life and, most likely, there is nothing you are doing that is causing you to not conceive.
Drinking a cup of half-caff rather than decaf coffee isn't the reason you aren't pregnant this month (Yep, I blamed myself for that one many times!). Am I running too much or not enough? Did I drink a glass of wine on the wrong day? You will drive yourself crazy and blame yourself for your struggle even though IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
7. It is OK to do fun things and enjoy life while struggling. Take time to enjoy being a couple because always focusing on what you don’t have will put a strain on your marriage. Try to find a hobby or something to do once in a while to take your mind off of infertility.
National Infertility Awareness Week is April 19-25. This post was submitted as part NIAW's theme: "You Are Not Alone." If you are an infertility warrior and willing to keep this conversation going, please contact me.