6/17/2015

To the Woman Considering an Abortion

Letter to Pregnant Woman Considering Abortion

To the Woman Considering an Abortion...

I have no idea what it's like to be in your shoes right now. 

I can't imagine how lost you must feel after seeing those unexpected pink lines on that plastic test you picked up at the grocery store.

I'm sure you prayed it was a false positive. 

Perhaps the test didn't work right...

Or you were just imagining an extra line.

But now reality's setting in: 

You're pregnant.

There is a precious, beautiful life growing inside of you right now.

And as scared as you are -- as lost and confused and angry as may be -- I want you to know:

YOU'RE going to be okay. 

Before you head to that appointment, I want you to know this procedure you're considering likely won't erase the pain. It won't get rid of the confusion, the emptiness, the anger or the sadness you may feel. 

I've never been in your shoes, so I'm not going to try to tell you what's right or wrong. 

Only you know what's best for you.

But I want to tell you this:

Adoption is an option.

Choosing life and a family for your child is so brave. 

Recognizing your circumstances may make it difficult for you to be the mother you believe this child deserves is selfless. 

Deciding to carry a child and pray for her and love him for nine months only to place that miracle in another woman's arms is courageous.

Adoption isn't easy, but oh my gosh...it can be really, really amazing. 

I know many brave birth mommas who would say the same.

My friend Sarah is one of them.

I asked her what she would say to a woman considering an abortion, and here's part of what she said:
My great heart breaks for her... 
Her choice will stay with her forever. 
She will never hear the first cry, first tears, first steps, whereas in an adoption you get to possibly experience this. 
There are so many resources out there who will help her and get her through the process with open arms... 
I would have never been able to live with myself had I chose abortion instead of adoption. 
It will shake you to the core. 
Even after adoption, I felt empty... 
But at the same time, so full of love for a new family I created for someone else.  
I can never express in words my whole experience, what I went through, and what that adoptive family means to me. 
I'm tearing up writing this because it brings back so many raw memories, and knowing what it felt like when I felt like I had no other options...
To the woman who's pregnant and considering an abortion:

Please know you are not alone.

This is not easy, but you will be okay.

My prayers are with you.

PS: If you are a woman who has more questions about the option of adoption but you don't know where to start, please contact me. I'm happy to connect you with people who have been in your shoes and resources that can help.