11/25/2015

Joy in an Open Adoption

I've been featuring stories for National Adoption Month, and the extension of this family through open adoption is so beautiful.

Jessica and her husband are adoptive parents in New York. 

While their story took some unexpected turns, they've found hope and healing in their twin boys.

Here's Jessica in her own words...
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Jessica and her husband with their sons, their birth mother and older siblings.
Adoption has brought us more joy than I could have ever imagined.

Adoption gave us the gift of family, the gift of parenthood.

When we entered into this journey, we had no idea what was ahead of us.

We had already been struggling for several years with infertility, undergone IVF, which resulted in 3 failed transfers and the loss of 6 little lives in the form of embryos.

We were emotionally and financially drained, but felt like we were supposed to move onto adoption. It felt like we tried every avenue and God just kept shutting the door.

Finally we fully surrendered and agreed become foster parents which we weren’t sure was right for our family at that time.

But even that door was shut as weather kept preventing caseworkers from getting to our house for our home inspection.

I just didn’t understand why God was closing all of these doors...
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Then we received the email.

Would we consider twins due in April…one  of whom would be born with Down syndrome?

We weren’t open to Down syndrome, and to be entirely honest, I wasn’t sure I really wanted to walk that road.

It felt unfair after waiting all of those to be asked to adopt a child that wasn’t what we envisioned as “perfect."

But it also become blindingly clear that THIS is what God had been preparing us for the last 5 ½ years of waiting.

We said, "Yes," and we were chosen by their incredible and loving birth family.

On April 14, 2014, our twin boys entered the world at 6:04 and 6:08 a.m., and let me tell you...

They were BOTH perfect. 

The past year and a half has been filled with the struggles that come with raising twin boys, one of whom has special needs, but it has been also filled with more joy, hugs, laughter and smiles than ever before.

With Lucas, we charge at full speed ahead, never stopping because he moves a mile a minute.

We're always amazed at how quickly he picks up on everything.

And with Asher, we have had to learn to slow down. We can’t rush each precious milestone, but they come at their own time and they are that much more special when they do come.

Our hearts are filled with so much love that they feel as though they could burst.
National Adoption MonthWith these two sweet boys, we have also gained the blessing of extended family in the form of their birth family who we get to see at least 4-5 times a year or more.

They have so many people who love them and no child can have too many people to love them.

We are blessed to be parents, to have children that fill our home with love, laughter and a few tears here and there...to have gained extended family through their birth family, and to now refer to our own parents as “Grandma and Grandpa" --  a title they carry with pride.

We are blessed to be made a larger family, through two little boys that tie us all together.
Are you interested in submitting a guest post for National Adoption Month? This Family's Journey is featuring your stories all month long! Contact me for more details.

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