12/01/2015

Infertility During the Holidays: A letter to you

Infertility is hard all the time.

But it's especially tough during the holidays.

During a time hallmarked with joy, gratitude and togetherness, it's easy to feel lost and alone.

For those of you trudging through the knee-deep trenches of infertile hell, I want you to know you're not alone:

Dear friends,

It's okay to be sad right now.

It's okay to be angry even though it's a so-called 'magical' time of year.

I know it's hard to smile when you dream of hanging and filling a stocking for the little one you've been dreaming about and waiting for.
I know it's impossible not to cry when you hang those ornaments on the Christmas tree and there are none that celebrate, "Baby's 1st Christmas" this year.

I know it's a stab in the heart when someone asks, "What do you want for Christmas this year?" and all you want is a family.

A gift that can't be unwrapped or placed neatly under a twinkling tree...

All you want is a family of your own.

I'm here to tell you I understand.

I know your heart.

I know you're trying to choose joy.

And I know how hard it is because deep down your heart is shattered into a million little pieces, and you're wondering when the brokenness of infertility will end.

But please don't let that brokenness defeat you.

Don't let infertility win. Don't let it steal the happy moments and treasured relationships in your life.

Because just like your heart, those relationships are fragile, too.

I know what you're going through -- that deep longing to become a parent.

And I'm here to remind you that you are not alone.

You're never alone.

It's okay to be sad this Christmas.

And next Christmas.

And the one after that...

It's okay to wonder when it'll be your turn to start holiday traditions with the family you've been dreaming about.

I want to encourage you that it won't always be this way.
Infertility During the Holidays
Because life -- as bumpy and rough as it can be -- is made of miracles. 

There will be a light at the end of this tunnel and happiness will find its way back to you again. 

Sometimes choosing joy is hard when we're in hard places.

I want you to know I'm thinking of you.

And that however you're feeling this time of year is okay.

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