1/21/2016

To the Pregnancy Haters...

Maybe it's because it's 4:50 a.m. and I just nuked some egg muffins to choke down prior to swigging a 7:30 a.m. glucose drink.

Maybe it's because I haven't sipped my [decaf] morning coffee yet.

Or maybe it's because the house is eerily silent while everyone sleeps. Seriously, even the dog is sleeping.

As it turns out when you're the only one awake in your world, you have time to process your thoughts and form logical sentences that are more than just fragmentary toddler-speak.

So I felt like blogging.

A couple of days ago, an article -- I Hate Being Pregnant And I'm Not Apologizing For It -- popped up on my Facebook news feed. Quite a few friends of mine had liked it and shared it on their social media sites which unfortunately made it flare up on my own.

Even reading the headline makes me cringe.

The writer says she hates being pregnant; she sweats like a cow; she hates her "unsightly" stretch marks and curses her baby bump for making her sleep habits complicated.

Then, after a complaining rant, she goes on to explain how she has empathy toward women who have experienced infertility or trouble getting pregnant.

Ummm, not so much.

Here's the deal.

Even an ounce of empathy toward women who have had difficulty or can't get pregnant would've stopped this article from being written the satirical way it was.

Is pregnancy a glamorous and beautiful experience for all women?

Absolutely not.

I'll be the first to admit the miracle of carrying a baby can come with significant discomfort and anxiety that is, at times, beyond comprehension.

And, Hello? You're talking to the Queen of Morning Sickness All Day Sickness here.

But there's a stark difference between wanting to be candidly honest about your real experiences with being pregnant and just being blatantly inconsiderate of others on bumpier roads than your own.

This article opened up an invitation for other women -- some of my friends -- to chime in about how pregnancy downright sucks. How they can't wait until this "nightmare" is behind them.

Look.

As a momma who has experienced the emotional and physical strains of pregnancy for the past several months, I can -- and DO -- understand the place many of these comments are coming from.

Pregnancy is hard.

But did anyone ever say it was easy? Did anyone ever say it was perfect and inflict pressure to enjoy every second of it?

Thankfully, not in my world.

The bottom line is this: If you hate being pregnant and you're lucky enough to achieve it easily, do what you need to do to prevent it from happening. And if you hate being pregnant but love the end result of a baby, find a more appropriate venue to announce to the world how truly awful the experience is for you.

There are lots and lots of people in this world -- people who YOU KNOW at your work, in your church, your neighborhood, in your circle of friends and family members -- who would gratefully accept the "obnoxious weight gain" or "saucer sized nipples" if it meant their bodies could grow a life inside of them like they're supposed to.
Pregnant After Infertility
Now, if you'll excuse me...I've got a new variety of juice to drink this morning that I hear tastes great.

But I'm not complaining.

After all, I think it's pretty cool I get to chug it, even if it does make me gag... ;)

Cheers, y'all!

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